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Happy and Fresh 2012!

Now that the celebrations are over and the decorations are stored, it is time to stop for a minute and think about the year we want!

One of my best blogs was last years’ start-up, grow-up, and let go. You can check it here: http://www.aliciacastilloholley.com/2011/09/start-up-grow-up-let-go/

This year I want to take EXACTLY the opposite view, driven in part by my friend Marilena Beuses who sent us a wonderful note on the joys of emptiness.

I can’t stress the importance of letting go, things and emotions come as we use them, it is so overwhelming to keep adding to it, that letting go comes as a relief and a gift to that emptiness that invariably will be filled out with newies.
So… without further do, here are my wishes for 2012….

1. Start fresh, and let go…. Release what is no longer useful to you, out with the things and emotions that you no longer need. Put aside the relationships where there is no connection, it will be re-established as you and them need it. Get empty lots in your calendar, the precious time that requires NO outcome: “il dolce far niente” as Italians say. Feel the freedom that comes from not HAVING to do anything. As my friend, Salim Abi-Saab once told me, the only thing we need to do is DIE, all the rest, we do because we want to. Cut the anchor that ties you to where you no longer need to be. This is a year to be enjoyed… get the dramas out. I’m sure new will come in, so make some space for them too.

2. Grow up… what is just fighting inside of you for growth? Now that you have some freedom, what would you use it for? What makes your heart jump with excitement? After all, live is but a set of staircases, with horizontal and vertical challenges, and every now and then a loop to get back on track. A bit of struggle is fine, as long as the universal question sews a thread onto what is meaningful to you: what is the lesson? Where is the next step, what is the road to it? Pick a couple of things to grow this year… then use focused intention… and forget about ‘the secret’ Life doesn’t happen to us, we happen to life.

3. Start up… Every year, I take a course on something I’ve never done before… even if it is something I’ll never do again. Take Arabic lessons, tango classes, learn to draw, sing new songs, play new games, start a new venture (one of my favorites), write a book or a poem. We took on building puzzles over the holidays! New things are exciting, keep your brain agile and your curiosity alive. There is nothing like uncertainty to spice up your life. At the end, failure is not as bad as inaction or boredom. Pull up a rack of magazines or search the internet for something unusual, unknown or unpredictable. Don’t buy things, DO.
Let’s create the 2012 we want…

PD: for myself I already started… I’m lending for free 10,000 copies of the book Falling in love with your life on Kindle, and slashed the price on kindle to $.99. grab your copy here and share the joy. http://dld.bz/aCEka

End Fishie’s story

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Image by PhOtOnQuAnTiQuE via Flickr

Ever since I almost lost one of my kids to depression, I take each individual connection as a sign of hope and joy… because Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be great!

I like to write notes that  both make you think and smile -which works at your conscious level – and rewire your brain towards happiness – which works at your subconscious level.

˜FULL STOP HERE˜

Take a second to read the previous paragraph again and now be aware of your neurons in your brain reconnecting: I agree, I disagree, this reminds me of…So, as you can realize, you are holding two conversations, one getting the message and one validating it or not. The same works when you are listening, oh yes, and it works when others are listening to you – ouch.

To get you a glimpse of how we work I want to share with you the story of Fishie… a cute little Fish that wandered around the sea until one day it thought about what life was…

˜Fishie Story˜

Fishie asked here and there: What is life?

  • The dolphins said that life was jumping…
  • The whales said that life was singing…
  • The seaweeds said that life was letting go…
  • The corals said that life was sticking to it…

but Fishie was never satisfied…

what is life, Fishie pondered with immense sadness

then the turtle said: “Well … umm there is another life…”

-Where, where, where, asked Fishie?

and the turtle signed towards the East.

Fishie swam as fast as it could and upon reaching the shore realized it was beyond its reach.

Still so, he decided to discover what life was about, and took a big jump until it laid on the sand.

How does the story end?

What more? share the story and be amazed at the responses…

here is to your happiness,

Alicia

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