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Happy and Fresh 2012!

Now that the celebrations are over and the decorations are stored, it is time to stop for a minute and think about the year we want!

One of my best blogs was last years’ start-up, grow-up, and let go. You can check it here: http://www.aliciacastilloholley.com/2011/09/start-up-grow-up-let-go/

This year I want to take EXACTLY the opposite view, driven in part by my friend Marilena Beuses who sent us a wonderful note on the joys of emptiness.

I can’t stress the importance of letting go, things and emotions come as we use them, it is so overwhelming to keep adding to it, that letting go comes as a relief and a gift to that emptiness that invariably will be filled out with newies.
So… without further do, here are my wishes for 2012….

1. Start fresh, and let go…. Release what is no longer useful to you, out with the things and emotions that you no longer need. Put aside the relationships where there is no connection, it will be re-established as you and them need it. Get empty lots in your calendar, the precious time that requires NO outcome: “il dolce far niente” as Italians say. Feel the freedom that comes from not HAVING to do anything. As my friend, Salim Abi-Saab once told me, the only thing we need to do is DIE, all the rest, we do because we want to. Cut the anchor that ties you to where you no longer need to be. This is a year to be enjoyed… get the dramas out. I’m sure new will come in, so make some space for them too.

2. Grow up… what is just fighting inside of you for growth? Now that you have some freedom, what would you use it for? What makes your heart jump with excitement? After all, live is but a set of staircases, with horizontal and vertical challenges, and every now and then a loop to get back on track. A bit of struggle is fine, as long as the universal question sews a thread onto what is meaningful to you: what is the lesson? Where is the next step, what is the road to it? Pick a couple of things to grow this year… then use focused intention… and forget about ‘the secret’ Life doesn’t happen to us, we happen to life.

3. Start up… Every year, I take a course on something I’ve never done before… even if it is something I’ll never do again. Take Arabic lessons, tango classes, learn to draw, sing new songs, play new games, start a new venture (one of my favorites), write a book or a poem. We took on building puzzles over the holidays! New things are exciting, keep your brain agile and your curiosity alive. There is nothing like uncertainty to spice up your life. At the end, failure is not as bad as inaction or boredom. Pull up a rack of magazines or search the internet for something unusual, unknown or unpredictable. Don’t buy things, DO.
Let’s create the 2012 we want…

PD: for myself I already started… I’m lending for free 10,000 copies of the book Falling in love with your life on Kindle, and slashed the price on kindle to $.99. grab your copy here and share the joy. http://dld.bz/aCEka

Why do we add sugar to the salt shaker

I wonder if we know about the difference between determination and stubbornness.

It is rather small, most of the time we use them interchangeably. Yet, there is a subtlety I want to share with you today. I am as determined as stubborn, that is why I’ve made my dreams come true. As a typical entrepreneur I asked different questions. For example, instead of: can I do that? We think about How can I do that?
Instead of will I fail? We think will I learn?

Those little differences have a big impact.

Anybody can see the power of those subtleties and start a chain reaction on its own. Then nobody knows where the change come from. Most likely the starting points go unnoticed.

Let me tell you a family story. When he was 7-8 yrs old, my brother George put sugar in the saltshaker. I don’t remember how long it took us to realize that. We never questioned what was in the saltshaker, it was white, it was granular, it should have been salt. You can imagine his grin when we complained at the dinner table about the low quality of salt “they don’t make salt as they use to”… until the day that mum caught him in-fraganti (hands-on) putting the sugar in.

So you see? Sometimes little differences go unnoticed. I am interested in how those differences go along on fostering or hindering entrepreneurial mindset and action. Let’s look at society’s mixed messages: Don’t be selfish, but succeed selfishly, and then, give yourself to a ‘better cause’. You go figure it out, I can’t. No wonder it is hard to think about developing our dreams, specially our entrepreneurial dreams. We don’t have the means to do it. We keep putting salt in the salt shaker because that is what we expect to do.

As one of my clients told me, “I just didn’t think about it”. And then life goes on, without exploring small differences that have a huge impact like stubbornness and determination. Those little differences help us take small steps, innovating, experimenting, learning to master few basic things.

Society expects us to move a mountain, but the best way to accomplish that is one stone at a time. Do you know how you lose weight? One milligram at a time. Same for dreams, you make your dreams one grain of salt or sugar at a time. Ok, yes, it doesn’t work for moving sofas, but you get the picture.

Most people think entrepreneurs wake up in the morning thinking about how many risks they will take that day. And there are so many closet entrepreneurs who can’t figure out how to move a mountain because they don’t see that all it takes is a change in a grain of salt or sugar. What would happen if we took action today to make a small change?

Let’s change stubbornness for determination. Both are needed to accomplish something despite difficulties. Stubbornness focuses on getting a message across and forcing a result. Determination focuses on exploring to analyse and change in order to achieve results. A determined person is inspiring; a stubborn person creates rejection. The energy and the input make them as similar as salt and sugar. Entrepreneurs find a way to achieve their goals using either one.

How do we build an entrepreneurial mindset, one grain at a time, what can you do to start contributing to the wealth of the world. What do you need to let go to move from stubbornness to determination. How can you help others. What can we do to help.

My invitation is to explore how to change stubbornness for determination, so we can take a small step. The world needs your creativity.

That is what we learn from putting sugar on the saltshaker.

On to you, Alicia